The shift from arrogance to humility should not be a take it or leave it process. Far too often, the two opposing mindsets have been relegated to personality test outcomes or to individual behaviors. We all know the two have far reaching impact on multiple areas of life. Like the following:
- Performance (business and personal
Most businesses (large and small) are afraid to tackle arrogance and humility. The pendulum either swings to enablement of the arrogant, or swings to not feeling comfortable with the “touchy, feely” of humility. When an organization refuses to deal, they run to distractions. Typically, meetings and over-thinking financial performance are du jour.
I am a man who has gone (still going) through the shift from arrogance to humility. I’ve grappled with regret, sadness, embarrassment, and more regarding this. It’s very hard work and the sooner you do it the better. I’ve even had the 3 AM visits, from above, reminding me of things I thought were buried and unknown to others. Maybe you have too.
I decided awhile ago to allow God to change me so that I can be like the sun, not gray and overcast. I couldn’t change myself. Arrogance, like humility, begins with a seed, moves to the roots, and then evidence in the form of a plant. Seeing a field of plants was too daunting and intimidating to change. Besides, even with the self-loathing, I also built a place of comfort, It was something I knew how to be. This quote from Jony Ive reveals how subtle this battle can be:
“I remember talking to Steve Jobs and asked why he was perceived as harsh. And I said couldn’t we be more moderate? And he said why? And I said, because I care about the team. And he said: “No Jony, you’re just really vain. You just want people to like you. I’m surprised at you, because I thought you really held the work up as the most important and not how you are perceived by people. People misunderstand Steve because he was so focused.”
Remember, there’s a lot on the line here. I’m choosing to shift. How about you?
After much searching, maybe you’ve come to the conclusion that it’s much better to just be who you are. I really believe you won’t embrace change until you get to the end of the search.
At the end of a search you should be tired, maybe sick and tired.
I know that many will not go here. They’d rather escape or medicate. It’s sad when a life, brief as it is, is made up in a spiral of dead ends.
Here are 5 reasons to just be who you are:
- You will run out of time. You, me, Mark Zuckerberg, Steve Jobs, and everyone else has this in common.
- Heaven knows we don’t need any more actors or actresses. I’ve given some Oscar-worthy performances in my life and they left me with nothing.
- The secret of success is found in being who you are. Warning here, the world you live in probably has a cheap imitation to offer. If you’re not careful, you could be fooled.
- The world is starving for it. With so many people neck deep in their own kingdom building, people are looking for the “real thing.” Many wonder if it really exists any longer. Hope is found in authenticity.
- You could find out why God made you. How wonderful! This is a connection you shouldn’t underestimate.
I noticed (paid attention to) my kids and their screens this morning. I, like many, am challenged by what's acceptable for screen time in my home. Apple, Facebook and Google are just a few of the contenders for attention. Their business models are rooted deeply in this.
My post today is not so much about social media, as it is about what we spend our time on in a given day (given is a keyword here). We all have been given 1,440 minutes in each day.
Can you spare 3 minutes?
Sparing 3 minutes is a starting point. It's a starting point for you to discover how much a gift time is and maybe how much time you're wasting on the pursuits that, in the end, won't amount to much.
So what should you do with 3 minutes? Here's a suggestive list:
- Take in nature. Right now, where I'm at, nature is sending a love letter to the senses.
- Turn off the screens and do nothing.
- Look at people and consider where they may be at.
- Count all that is going right in your life.
- Tell someone you love them-on purpose.
Now go do this every day. You'll still have 1,437 minutes leftover. Who knows, maybe that 3 minutes you spared will grow.
The following post was written almost 4 years ago. Ironically, the problem still persists inside of my friend's organization. I know you may be wondering how this organization manages to stay in the game. I won't wast precious space on all of the reasons, but one reason is they're in a hot market. Sadly, hot markets can be like ether to organizations and they come and go. Regardless, it was sobering to read and update this post.
I talked to a friend this week about how her company is facing a crisis of identity. Their crisis is not a marketing one, but an internal sales vs. operations one. Ever heard of it?
Many companies deal with the following:
- What area is most important sales or ops.
- Areas (sales, ops., customer service, etc.) that create their own fiefdoms.
- Top management that is unable or unwilling to be clear.
- Conflict avoidance.
- No programs for people development.
The above is not an exhaustive list, but covers some key areas of stress. In many cases the organization has allowed the weeds to overtake the garden. Meaning; there is one vision and all must serve that vision. Anything less results in a culture full of dysfunction.
I recommend the following:
- Change the culture or change the culture.
See this article on how Apple values their culture. As you may have guessed, taking responsibility for your culture is paramount.
I've been an iPhone user for almost a year. I currently using the iPhone 4. The device has made a positive impact on my work and personal life.
The following is a list of the apps I like most:
- YouVersion – My Bible app of choice. Very functional and user-focused.
- TweetDeck – Great for my updates on Twitter and Facebook. Everything is right before your eyes.
- Facebook – Allows me to stay connected to my Facebook account wherever I am.
- Milebug – Great app for keeping track of all of those business miles.
- Gist – A tool that consolidates news from the people I follow on various social networks.
- CNBC – All the financial news and information I need. Bloomberg is good too.
- Entrepreneur – The app from Entrepreneur Magazine. Great to have access to interesting articles when I'm not in front of my notebook computer.
- Cor.Kz – This app keeps track of the wines I love and has a great database for search needs.
- Nutrition Menu – An app for keeping track of what I eat and the nutritional value.
- Nke+ GPS – A great tool for my running. Keeps me informed on my time, distance and the routes I take.
- iFitness – An app that has helped my fitness plan in spades. A very interactive app.
- ESPN ScoreCenter – This app lets me stay updated on the scores and stats of the teams I follow.
- Pandora – A good app that has help me find music that I had forgotten.
I'm sure I could list more, but these are the ones that stand out. By the way, the phone calling is much improved over the 3Gs version.