{"id":2067,"date":"2018-03-20T21:26:48","date_gmt":"2018-03-21T01:26:48","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.epicliving.com\/epic\/?p=2067"},"modified":"2018-03-20T21:26:48","modified_gmt":"2018-03-21T01:26:48","slug":"truth-telling","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.epicliving.com\/epic\/truth-telling\/","title":{"rendered":"Truth-Telling"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>In many ways, truth-telling has gotten me in trouble. In the end, as I look back, it ended up for the good of the person across from me. Truth-telling is not always easy. In many situations, it has the potential of hurting the hearer or creating separation.<\/p>\n<p>In the age we live in we&#8217;ve made three major mistakes:<\/p>\n<ol>\n<li>We have made truth a matter of interpretation. In other words, the truth is in the eyes of the beholder<\/li>\n<li>We have allowed our emotions to overrun reason. It seems that reason has been permanently exiled<\/li>\n<li>We are motivated by our fears<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>I&#8217;m making a case for truth-telling because I know the benefits. If the people closest to me had shied away from it, I would be lost in my own delusions. Often we&#8217;re very good at deluding ourselves.<\/p>\n<p>I want to be very clear that truth-telling is an art. It involves love, timing and a strong grasp of the situation underpinning the conversation. If the person delivering the truth is ill-equipped or oblivious to this, the truth will be a source of harm. As you can imagine, it&#8217;s vital to seek truth from those you trust.<\/p>\n<p>The following are some truths I&#8217;ve had to communicate recently:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>&#8220;You&#8217;re smart and have a good heart. The mistake you made was allowing him to take advantage of your kindness.&#8221;<\/li>\n<li>&#8220;He won&#8217;t give up the drugs because he doesn&#8217;t want to. When he wants to be whole, he will make the decision to own his problems.&#8221;<\/li>\n<li>&#8220;I appreciate the desire to make things better. However, having more meetings to discuss what has been discussed to the point of nausea is a waste of everyone&#8217;s time.&#8221;<\/li>\n<li>&#8220;I&#8217;m so sorry. I know that had to hurt you deeply. What can I do to help you?&#8221;<\/li>\n<li>&#8220;No one owes you anything. You have been given the responsibility for your life. If you don&#8217;t like where you&#8217;re at, then begin the process of making a change.&#8221;<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>I haven&#8217;t perfected the art of truth-telling. I&#8217;m better at it than I was ten years ago, and I have a long way to go. It&#8217;s clear to me what happens if I fail to attempt truth-telling; I will fail myself and those who count on me.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>In many ways, truth-telling has gotten me in trouble. In the end, as I look back, it ended up for the good of the person across from me. Truth-telling is not always easy. In many situations, it has the potential of hurting the hearer or creating separation. In the age we live in we&#8217;ve made&hellip;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":1199,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[6,54,1907],"tags":[76,1385,1521,93,692,1929],"class_list":["post-2067","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-learning","category-life-perspectives","category-well-being","tag-art","tag-emotional-intelligence","tag-emotions","tag-relationships-2","tag-truth","tag-truth-telling"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.epicliving.com\/epic\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2067","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.epicliving.com\/epic\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.epicliving.com\/epic\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.epicliving.com\/epic\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.epicliving.com\/epic\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2067"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.epicliving.com\/epic\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2067\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":2068,"href":"https:\/\/www.epicliving.com\/epic\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2067\/revisions\/2068"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.epicliving.com\/epic\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/1199"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.epicliving.com\/epic\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2067"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.epicliving.com\/epic\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2067"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.epicliving.com\/epic\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2067"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}