{"id":378,"date":"2010-09-02T09:30:00","date_gmt":"2010-09-02T09:30:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.epicliving.com\/epic\/the-self-centered-inluencer\/"},"modified":"2010-09-02T09:30:00","modified_gmt":"2010-09-02T09:30:00","slug":"the-self-centered-inluencer","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.epicliving.com\/epic\/the-self-centered-inluencer\/","title":{"rendered":"The Self-Centered Inluencer"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>I was at a retreat this past weekend.&#0160; It was great.&#0160; The teacher\/workshop leader was fabulous.&#0160; One thing that hit me deeply was when a couple of table-mates told me, rather prophetically, that my vision would lead to further influenicng of the world I run in.&#0160; It was good to hear that.&#0160;<\/p>\n<p>This post is not about me, except when I misbehave.&#0160; And misbehavior is the point.&#0160; This post is about the self-centered influencers out there.&#0160; You know who I&#39;m talking about.&#0160; But if you don&#39;t, the following is a short list of descriptions:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Evasive in conversation<\/li>\n<li>No eye contact<\/li>\n<li>Clique prone<\/li>\n<li>Two or three faces<\/li>\n<li>Deeply insecure<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>The self-centered influencer has influence beyond position and they tend to be very needy.&#0160; These folks really should be in a cube far away from any being who needs connection.<\/p>\n<p>So what happened?&#0160; How&#39;d they get to be this way?&#0160; I don&#39;t have all the answers, but here are&#0160;my thoughts:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>The influencer never grew up.&#0160; Those who should have held them accountable early on abdicated the responsibility or found no time to make the tough decisions.<\/li>\n<li>The pursuit to grow skills outpaced the pursuit to grow character.<\/li>\n<li>The organizations (workplace, church, association, home) to which the influencer called home, enabled in the name of fear, money and\/or productivity.<\/li>\n<li>The influencer ignored the path of legacy.&#0160; In other words, if we knew what we were leaving behind we&#39;d be in awe with humility added.<\/li>\n<li>The influencer believed the lies told by their own inner-voice.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>&#0160;<\/p>\n<p>&#0160;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I was at a retreat this past weekend.&#0160; It was great.&#0160; The teacher\/workshop leader was fabulous.&#0160; One thing that hit me deeply was when a couple of table-mates told me, rather prophetically, that my vision would lead to further influenicng of the world I run in.&#0160; It was good to hear that.&#0160; This post is&hellip;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[123,170],"tags":[22,1360,336,177,178,119],"class_list":["post-378","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-leadership-development","category-management","tag-business","tag-executive-development","tag-leadership","tag-management-2","tag-organizational-development","tag-self-help"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.epicliving.com\/epic\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/378","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.epicliving.com\/epic\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.epicliving.com\/epic\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.epicliving.com\/epic\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.epicliving.com\/epic\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=378"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.epicliving.com\/epic\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/378\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.epicliving.com\/epic\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=378"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.epicliving.com\/epic\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=378"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.epicliving.com\/epic\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=378"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}