{"id":379,"date":"2010-08-20T20:33:11","date_gmt":"2010-08-20T20:33:11","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.epicliving.com\/epic\/resolving-in-grief\/"},"modified":"2010-08-20T20:33:11","modified_gmt":"2010-08-20T20:33:11","slug":"resolving-in-grief","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.epicliving.com\/epic\/resolving-in-grief\/","title":{"rendered":"Resolving In Grief"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>It&#39;s been some time, but I felt now would be appropriate.&#0160; Losing, winning, missing all seem to have their place when a loved one passes.&#0160; In my case my dad almost two years removed.&#0160;&#0160;<\/p>\n<p>I&#39;ve made some heroic attempts at understanding my relationship with a man named Charles.&#0160; Not sure I&#39;ll ever fully get it, but Sting&#39;s song Ghost Story is an ironic portrait of my relationship with my dad.&#0160; Kismet.&#0160; I thought I would share here as I make my way through a long journey.<\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<p align=\"center\" class=\"asset asset-video\" style=\"MARGIN: 0px auto; DISPLAY: block\">\n<object height=\"385\" width=\"480\"><param name=\"movie\" value=\"http:\/\/www.youtube.com\/v\/vUSYlotulU8?fs=1&amp;hl=en_US\" \/><param name=\"allowFullScreen\" value=\"true\" \/><param name=\"allowscriptaccess\" value=\"always\" \/><embed allowfullscreen=\"true\" allowscriptaccess=\"always\" height=\"385\" src=\"http:\/\/www.youtube.com\/v\/vUSYlotulU8?fs=1&amp;hl=en_US\" type=\"application\/x-shockwave-flash\" width=\"480\" \/><\/object><\/p>\n<p><em>I watch the Western sky<br \/>The sun is sinking<br \/>The geese are flying South<br \/>It sets me thinking<\/p>\n<p>I did not miss you much<br \/>I did not suffer<br \/>What did not kill me<br \/>Just made me tougher<\/p>\n<p>I feel the winter come<br \/>His icy sinews<br \/>Now in the fire light<br \/>The case continues<\/p>\n<p>Another night in court<br \/>The same old trial<br \/>The same old questions asked<br \/>The same denial<\/p>\n<p>The shadows closely run<br \/>Like jury members<br \/>I look for answers in<br \/>The fire&#39;s embers<\/p>\n<p>Why was I missing then<br \/>That whole December<br \/>I give my usual line:<br \/>I don&#39;t remember<\/p>\n<p>Another winter comes<br \/>His icy fingers creep<br \/>Into these bones of mine<br \/>These memories never sleep<\/p>\n<p>And all these differences<br \/>A cloak I borrow<br \/>We kept our distances<br \/>Why should it follow I must have loved you<\/p>\n<p>What is the force that binds the stars<br \/>I wore this mask to hide my scars<br \/>What is the power that pulls the tide<br \/>I never could find a place to hide<\/p>\n<p>What moves the Earth around the sun<br \/>What could I do but run and run and run<br \/>Afraid to love, afraid to fail<br \/>A mast without a sail<\/p>\n<p>The moon&#39;s a fingernail and slowly sinking<br \/>Another day begins and now I&#39;m thinking<br \/>That this indifference was my invention<br \/>When everything I did sought your attention<\/p>\n<p>You were my compass star<br \/>You were my measure<br \/>You were a pirate&#39;s map<br \/>A buried treasure<\/p>\n<p>If this was all correct<br \/>The last thing I&#39;d expect<br \/>The prosecution rests<br \/>It&#39;s time that I confess: I must have loved you <br \/><\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>It&#39;s been some time, but I felt now would be appropriate.&#0160; 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