{"id":529,"date":"2008-08-22T07:47:39","date_gmt":"2008-08-22T07:47:39","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.epicliving.com\/epic\/loving-and-falling-in-love\/"},"modified":"2008-08-22T07:47:39","modified_gmt":"2008-08-22T07:47:39","slug":"loving-and-falling-in-love","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.epicliving.com\/epic\/loving-and-falling-in-love\/","title":{"rendered":"Loving and Falling in Love"},"content":{"rendered":"

First, I'm not turning into a romance novelist.  But I am going to correlate romantic love with our work (the thing that is connected to our wiring).
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I think a big problem with marriage and long-term relationships is the misconceived notion of what falling in love means.  There is a reason they call it "falling."  Falling implies a never-ending experience.  Unfortunately, we find ways to stop falling and then everything changes-for the worse. For example, I know people in relationships where they love each other.  But they're not in love anymore.  No pursuing, no ache, no shakes, and certainly no flowers.  They're together, but dead.<\/p>\n

Does this sound like your work relationship?<\/p>\n

Some out there may be thinking about refuting the above.  You might be thinking about how the warm and fuzzy does not last a lifetime.  You might be thinking that I don't know all the hurtful things he said.<\/p>\n

I'm not writing this to make you feel bad about love gone wrong or shame you about a divorce.  All I'm saying is that to sustain "falling in love" you must make a decision and manage it accordingly.  Sometimes it will be effortless and sometimes it will feel like its killing you.  But either way you have a decision to make.  <\/p>\n

So make it.<\/p>\n

Here are some tips on staying "in love" with your work:<\/p>\n