She is Melody

Have you ever walked by or near someone and heard a melody.  Maybe it was Bill Evans or Joni Mitchell, but you heard it.  I will confess this has happened to me many times with my wife.  It’s happening right now as I listen to Pat Metheny’s Understanding.  I see my wife’s face and my heart is warm.  I think God gives us this wonderful gift if we let him. 

I am convinced that we miss much in this life.  How many melodies have I missed?  Who was trying to play a symphony, when I was settling for a jingle?

See below for some inspiration…

What’s stopping you from hearing the melodies.

For the Idea’s Sake

I have a new responsibility at Epic Living; I’m the Chief-Idea-Spreader.  So this post is for those that believe the idea is what matters.  It’s for those that are not hiding behind sales pitches.  It’s for those that care about you and not yours (thank you Paul).  It’s for those that have been told they’re nuts for trying.  It’s for those that face the lonely road that is following their ideas. 

Some questions for you if you fall into that group:

  • Are you allegiant to your ideas? 
  • Would you defend your ideas to the death (not necessarily to literal death). 
  • Have your ideas cost you anything?
  • Do you have any scars to show for your ideas?
  • Can your ideas be bought?
  • Have your ideas been the source of someone’s impugning laughter?
  • Do your ideas support a cause?
  • Are your ideas nothing but a business plan in disguise?
  • Do your ideas create a fear that you are compelled to face?
  • Have you crossed the Rubicon?

Power in the Corporate Matrix

As we tackle bullet #9 from my post on How To Know If You’re a Corporate Slave), the issue of power in corporate America is one we’d all due well to pay attention to.  I wrote a column a couple of weeks ago on this for BizJournals.  Here is one excerpt for you to consider:

  • For example, when companies have a crisis in how customers are treated at their first point of experience, you can trace the problem to the handling of power. If the experience is negative for the customer, often it’s a sign of a misuse of power. The employee has not been trained or simply does not know what impact his or her power can have. Whether it pertains to looking up an account number or researching past service calls, the employee has the power to shape opinion, and that opinion – the one taken away by the customer – has tremendous consequences.

Power is not just for the CEO or CFO, it’s for all individuals in the organization-regardless of title.  There is no doubt that handling power needs to treated just like handling a delicate piece of crystal.  If you don’t do it well, much damage will be done.  It’s insane how most organizations ignore it.  Organizations that fail to address it will find that if their people aren’t handling power well, the power is handling them.

Watch out!  If you’re using power to move people (especially a customer) or processes to fit some blind aim, you’re cementing a date for extinction.  It won’t feel that way now because the numbers may be telling you that everything is fine.  But misusing power never has a happy ending. 

As you seek to use power the right way, consider Tom Peters’ post on "Top Fifty" "Have Yous." His insights remind me of some of the right uses of power.  The list is lengthy, but worth reading.

Compromising Values and Corporate Slavery

We’re now on bullet #8 from my post How To Know If You’re a Corporate Slave.  When you think about compromising values what comes to your mind?  A busy executive not willing to spend time with his family?  Or the sales gun who can’t seem to get off the road?  Both of those situations would fit, but I want to explore the over-time affect.

In my days in the corporate jungle, I had more than a few occasions where I let my career override some of my values.  There were times where I would get the call from my wife asking me when I would be leaving the office.  Feeling torn, I would cave and say I needed to stay a little longer.  Then came the agonizing silence and a soft spoken "ok."  Funny how things get eroded over time…small decision after small decision.  At that time in my life I knew who was master and who was slave.

Many in corporate America think what they do is noble and for the good of all (economy, families, the American Dream, etc.).  But in the reality I lived in it was about profit.  Don’t get me wrong, profit is a good thing until greed takes over.  We could have left a little on the table and still have been profitable.  Funny how greed always seems to be crouching at the door.  I regret not living free.

So what are you to do?  You’re a corporate accountant or a sales engineer and you’ve been doing that for years.  You can’t just give it up.  Or can you?  Consider the following as you contemplate living free:

  1. Many people should just give it up.  They’ve been dormant, if not dead, for too long and there life is passing them by.
  2. If you’re employer is ok with you compromising your values, then they probably are involved in the corporate slave trade.  You can know their ok with it based on what they ask you to do in a given week, month or year.
  3. Compromising values is an over-time process…a very subtle process.  So subtle that you might even think that everything is wonderful (promotions, titles, bonuses, etc.).
  4. Your values are the things that really pay you.  Counter-logic here, but show me a man or woman who have been allegiant to their values, and I will show you someone of true wealth.
  5. Better stop compromising now because eventually you will have to answer for the life you’ve shaped.
  6. If you’re early into your career and haven’t gotten attached to the subtleties of deceit, then ask questions about what’s being asked of you.
  7. If you’re well into your career, see #6.
  8. It’s always a battle to hold your values as sacred.  Don’t think this will be easy, there’s something at stake.
  9. Do you have someone to keep you accountable?  Do you answer to yourself only? 
  10. Corporate slavery succeeds when people forget what living free is all about.  See my post on Taking a Stand for greater clarity.

Ignoring Reality

I thought I would provide you a small preview of my new book, Waking Up In Corporate America: Seven Secrets That Opened My Eyes.  The preview is taken from Secret #6 and addresses the ignoring of reality (another sign of corporate slavedom):

THE KITE

Have you ever watched a kite flying in the middle of March? It conjures memories of childhood, doesn’t it? As wonderful as this sight can be, it also can be an object lesson in why we can find ourselves ignoring reality. That kite is only as good as the holder of the string. If the person holding the string lets go or forgets to pay attention, there can be consequences. The kite could drift away in the blue sky above, or there might be a tangled mess in a tree.

In life, reality is designed to be the string that keeps a limit on wonderful flight. Without it, we would be wanderers floating without direction or, worse, tangled in a mess. We are sort of alive like the dancing kite, yet we’re not fully there because we’re tethered by the string of reality. This causes sadness and a feeling of helplessness. Therefore, we ignore the string—the reality—because we prefer to believe we have the freedom to fly without limits.

There are a number of executives and non-executives alike who ignore reality daily. They foolishly place too much confidence in their knowledge. Whether they hold tight to their advanced degrees or some other validation of their brainpower, they may be traveling on a disastrous road. The newspapers are filled with high-profile stories about smart people doing dumb things.

Where do we turn when we can’t ignore reality? Do we proudly dig in our heels, as if to say, “I know what I’m doing?” Do we become fatalistic and convince ourselves that it really doesn’t matter?

These responses occur in phases—life phases. In youth, pride can get a grip. There is a certain arrogance that screams invincibility. In many cases, this type of attitude closes off the opportunity to learn. In our youth, we can fall into the trap of thinking that learning is only useful when it serves our own purposes. Humility is the fertile ground needed for learning to occur.

5 Myths of Retirement

First, all of us should be investing our money for the future-however long that may be.  We should not be living for a future we have no guarantee of seeing.

Bullet #8 in my post How To Know If You’re a Corporate Slave, speaks to those working/living for retirement.  It’s a sad place to be when all of your energy and focus is on something unknown like retirement.  But we do it and we’re encouraged to as well.  We’re encouraged by Wall Street and the organizations we work for.  Why is that?  With Wall Street it makes total sense; follow the money and you will find Nirvana.  The organization’s motivations can be a little murky.  It can be honest care for you (rare) or it can be a way of putting golden shackles on your wrists and ankles.

I had a conversation with a former colleague who remarked that he was happy that he had a job and only needed 12 more years before retirement.  That statement was not horrific, but the fact that he didn’t say anything else about his work was.  He’s all but given up and given in.  I don’t think his organization minds…

Regardless of where you stand on the idea of retirement, consider these 5 myths:

  1. Other people’s experience will let me know how things will go for me. 
  2. I can do what I’ve always wanted to do when I retire. 
  3. Employers offer retirement benefits to retain talent. 
  4. I shouldn’t let go of those vested benefits that I’ve worked so hard to earn. 
  5. I need to stay with this company to provide a secure future for myself when I’m too old to work.