Lessons Learned

A mentor asked me today about what lessons I’ve learned lately.  Here were some of my responses:

  1. Sometimes we can lose our identity in things other than the those that have a "forever" value.  We must be careful to hold close the things of our core.
  2. The subconscious mind is a very deep sea.  Better be prepared for diving.
  3. Ask yourself what you really have in common with those people sitting next to you.
  4. Pain is a strange elixir in life, when it happens we collapse, but a short time after we are stronger and more beautiful.
  5. When you’re married, you must be "one" in your plans.

What are some lessons you’ve learned lately?  I welcome your comments…

Living, Yet Extinct

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Is Rick Wagoner presiding over a dinosaur?  Some say yes, others say he just needs to keep the turnaround going.  I’m in the dinosaur camp.  GM just seems to be so management driven and out of touch.  Have you looked at their cars lately?

Give me your thoughts in the comments section below.

                                                                                                                           

Solving Problems

What problem are you solving today?  Even more importantly, how will the world be affected by the solving of the problem?  If you’re not solving a problem, you’re probably part of the problem.  This is starting to get wordy..I think you get the point.

I know of many sales gurus who suggest finding someone’s problem and you’ll make the sale.  But why bother if you don’t really care?  If you solve the problem to further your own plans, then it seems rather shallow.  You may argue that solving the problem is enough.  I would say that your motivations will reveal the root of your desires.

My mentor and friend Rick Williams told me once that my greatest heartbreak will be the source of my greatest service to mankind.  I agree, and would say this is the thing you’re willing place all of your life energy toward. 

In the end, problems must be solved by ideas that have integrity…as well as the people who generate them.

I welcome your comments.

An Ocean or a Lake

Is your influence an ocean or a lake?  Meaning, are you dynamic like the ocean vs. the calmness of a small or medium sized lake?

Those who have ocean-like influence are truly inspiring.  They are like that classic movie where you’re at the edge of your seat throughout.  A movie where you think about the "story" well after the conclusion.  You laugh, you cry, you root for the heroic actions.  These are the people who change your life…one heartbeat at a time.  The ocean-like leader helps you discover life as you most wanted.

The lake-affect influencer leaves the followers bored, cynical and pessimistic.  This type of leader is afraid most of the time, doesn’t know how he or she got there and is really not interested in their people at all.  Don’t get me wrong, they appreciate their people when the camera is rolling or when their asked in a staff meeting.  In many ways these folks are just "there."  Just there for the ride…

Life is brief (as I know you know), so go find the ocean and experience all of dynamics you’ve dreamed of.  You can’t afford to live in a lake…you awake one day to find you never really lived.

Book Excerpt

Thought I would give you a taste of my book "Waking the Working Dead."  This excerpt is from Chapter 9.

THE POWER OF AUTHENTICITY

Let’s now explore how we move to practicing authentic behaviors.  First, remember that authentic influence applies to everyone.  Whether you are an entry-level receptionist or the CEO.  Far too often, we buy into the lie that this mind-set is exclusive to high-level executives.  I remember a time when an associate engaged me in a robust discussion about authentic leadership.  He had a variety of opinions about the subject.  Boy was I shocked!  John was an inquisitive guy, but rarely had we spoke about such things.  He had a history of not taking “no” for an answer.  He also questioned everything, with a strong opinion to boot.  As we began the conversation, I passionately spoke of the importance of authenticity.  He really wanted to agree, however it was obvious that he didn’t grasp the concept.  More than likely his experiences reflected what most of us have endured.  I told him that the essence of my concept was diversity, the kind of diversity where everyone’s voice (not their skin color) really matters.  After our spirited discussion, he realized that I truly wanted the group to be originals and not replicas.  Strange science, since he’d been asked to be a duplicate under so many past leaders. 

Allowing people to be authentic gave me a reputation of being a little over the top, but my people were always the better for it.  Think about it, do we really want an environment where fakes are the norm?  Most people I’ve led want the opportunity to be themselves (while doing their best in their area of expertise).  Organizations blow it when they don’t encourage authentic behaviors.  It’s the authentic leaders who produce the greatest results.  Name one organization where fakes carried the day.  You would probably need to check the bankruptcy filings to find them.  When you evaluate an environment, work or otherwise, make sure it embraces authentic behaviors—like honest communication and courage under fire.   

Ethics, Ethics, Ethics

This piece from The Standard illustrates how unimportant ethics are to some.  The subject is author/Harvard student Kaavya Viswanathan.  She seems to have forgotten that plagiarism is wrong.  But as the article clearly notes, many before her have done the same.  I guess it doesn’t matter when you’re marketing and selling books.

As many of you know, I am writing (updates coming soon on a release date) book and it will be my writing alone.  What a violation of trust to copy another author’s material.

Today you might be confronted with a tough decision around a small matter.  Whatever it is, do what is Right…your future will be brighter that way.

Impact

Terry Walling has had a profound impact on my life and direction.  The link provided is to his blog.  I’ve never met Terry in person, but the impact is there just the same.

Be sure to check out his thoughts around Steve Jobs and "Now Discover Your Strengths." 

Who’s impacting you?  Write me a comment (link at the end of this entry).

Must I Choose?

Teddy Shah’s letter to Fortune magazine is not only wise, but convicting.  The article profiles various leaders/executives and their typical work day.  Some of the insight around efficiency is good, as well as Hank Paulson’s (Goldman Sachs) commitment to his customers and health.

Beware of the beast (career/work)…the article is a tale of caution.  You only get one opportunity to get "life" right.  Many of us have given way too much of our lives to things that still leave us wanting more.

Start today by establishing a threshold of contentment and success.  Better to finish this race with a great life to show for it.