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Matthew posts this piece on the noose, oops, I mean the tie.  Loosen up your tie (ladies, maybe the shoes) and enjoy the ride because they’re are no do-overs.

Scot over at Cube Rules posted something that made me grin.  A short piece titled All Work and No Play.

Could it me true?  I think so.

One of the wisest things you can do in your career and life is to embrace discomfort.  Really, its just about changing/learning in order to make your life a masterpiece.  Once again, a masterpiece is not a respecter of your income, fame, family, car or social network.  There is a masterpiece in you, and only you can get it out.

So what does discomfort do for your masterpiece? 

• It keeps your senses on fire, as it relates to new trends and new paths. 
• It keeps you away from group think (a poisonous exercise). 
• It reminds you that you only have a limited time to get this life right.
• It reminds you that maybe you were put here to inspire others to discover.
• It reminds you that true success doesn’t come without discomfort.

Some years ago, when I ran the halls of corporate America, I was teaching a group of associates about the idea of Creative Discomfort.  In that workshop, I had the group (about 20 people) walk down and up 3 flights of stairs-backwards.  It was priceless to see and absorb.  Those people learned that day the cost of being in a state of discomfort.  But what’s inspiring is how they got used to walking up and down backwards.  It didn’t take very long for the group to realize how breakthroughs come-usually where we’re afraid/unwilling to go.

John Moore over at Brand Autopsy has a wonderful post on THE Social Media MATRIX that reinforces my thoughts on Creative Discomfort.  I love his connection to The Matrix.

Considering that I live in Ohio (right in OSU’s backyard), it seems only appropriate that I write about over confidence.  I’m referencing the type that is being poured out by many sports writers into the heads of LSU players/coaches/fans today.  Specifically tonight’s BCS Championship game.  Of course, I want the Buckeyes to win, but I don’t wish overconfidence on anyone.

If you’ve been reading paper/online sports columns, then you already know that Ohio State doesn’t have a snow ball’s chance in….

Maybe the above is true, but here are 10 rules for not getting over confident in life and work:

1. Embrace discomfort.  Discomfort breeds humility and a sense that everything is a journey, not a destination/arrival.
2. Don’t chase success.  For more on this, see Secret #3 from my upcoming book Waking Up In Corporate America: The Seven Secrets That Opened My Eyes (release date 1/15/2008).
3. Don’t believe your own press.  A wise friend told me once that who we are can often be found in-between the criticism and praise.
4. Focus on your work and don’t compare.
5. Make some mistakes and learn.  In my younger days I used to think that life would be measured by my wins.  I’m glad, with time, that I learned the value of losses…they produce the fertile ground for winning.
6. Get mentors/advisors who are not impressed by you.  These are the rare people who will actually tell you the truth.
7. Stay hungry (enough said).
8. Be thankful for prosperity, but don’t count on it or feel entitled to it.
9. Face your insecurities and deal with them.  This is often the biggest block to sustained breakthroughs.
10. Go see the below movie:

Happy holidays to everyone.  May it be a time of joy and peace (real).

As we tackle bullet #9 from my post on How To Know If You’re a Corporate Slave), the issue of power in corporate America is one we’d all due well to pay attention to.  I wrote a column a couple of weeks ago on this for BizJournals.  Here is one excerpt for you to consider:

• For example, when companies have a crisis in how customers are treated at their first point of experience, you can trace the problem to the handling of power. If the experience is negative for the customer, often it’s a sign of a misuse of power. The employee has not been trained or simply does not know what impact his or her power can have. Whether it pertains to looking up an account number or researching past service calls, the employee has the power to shape opinion, and that opinion – the one taken away by the customer – has tremendous consequences.

Power is not just for the CEO or CFO, it’s for all individuals in the organization-regardless of title.  There is no doubt that handling power needs to treated just like handling a delicate piece of crystal.  If you don’t do it well, much damage will be done.  It’s insane how most organizations ignore it.  Organizations that fail to address it will find that if their people aren’t handling power well, the power is handling them.

Watch out!  If you’re using power to move people (especially a customer) or processes to fit some blind aim, you’re cementing a date for extinction.  It won’t feel that way now because the numbers may be telling you that everything is fine.  But misusing power never has a happy ending. 

As you seek to use power the right way, consider Tom Peters’ post on "Top Fifty" "Have Yous." His insights remind me of some of the right uses of power.  The list is lengthy, but worth reading.

We’re now on bullet #8 from my post How To Know If You’re a Corporate Slave.  When you think about compromising values what comes to your mind?  A busy executive not willing to spend time with his family?  Or the sales gun who can’t seem to get off the road?  Both of those situations would fit, but I want to explore the over-time affect.

In my days in the corporate jungle, I had more than a few occasions where I let my career override some of my values.  There were times where I would get the call from my wife asking me when I would be leaving the office.  Feeling torn, I would cave and say I needed to stay a little longer.  Then came the agonizing silence and a soft spoken "ok."  Funny how things get eroded over time…small decision after small decision.  At that time in my life I knew who was master and who was slave.

Many in corporate America think what they do is noble and for the good of all (economy, families, the American Dream, etc.).  But in the reality I lived in it was about profit.  Don’t get me wrong, profit is a good thing until greed takes over.  We could have left a little on the table and still have been profitable.  Funny how greed always seems to be crouching at the door.  I regret not living free.

So what are you to do?  You’re a corporate accountant or a sales engineer and you’ve been doing that for years.  You can’t just give it up.  Or can you?  Consider the following as you contemplate living free:

1. Many people should just give it up.  They’ve been dormant, if not dead, for too long and there life is passing them by.
2. If you’re employer is ok with you compromising your values, then they probably are involved in the corporate slave trade.  You can know their ok with it based on what they ask you to do in a given week, month or year.
3. Compromising values is an over-time process…a very subtle process.  So subtle that you might even think that everything is wonderful (promotions, titles, bonuses, etc.).
4. Your values are the things that really pay you.  Counter-logic here, but show me a man or woman who have been allegiant to their values, and I will show you someone of true wealth.
5. Better stop compromising now because eventually you will have to answer for the life you’ve shaped.
6. If you’re early into your career and haven’t gotten attached to the subtleties of deceit, then ask questions about what’s being asked of you.
7. If you’re well into your career, see #6.
8. It’s always a battle to hold your values as sacred.  Don’t think this will be easy, there’s something at stake.
9. Do you have someone to keep you accountable?  Do you answer to yourself only? 
10. Corporate slavery succeeds when people forget what living free is all about.  See my post on Taking a Stand for greater clarity.

I thought I would provide you a small preview of my new book, Waking Up In Corporate America: Seven Secrets That Opened My Eyes.  The preview is taken from Secret #6 and addresses the ignoring of reality (another sign of corporate slavedom):

THE KITE

Have you ever watched a kite flying in the middle of March? It conjures memories of childhood, doesn’t it? As wonderful as this sight can be, it also can be an object lesson in why we can find ourselves ignoring reality. That kite is only as good as the holder of the string. If the person holding the string lets go or forgets to pay attention, there can be consequences. The kite could drift away in the blue sky above, or there might be a tangled mess in a tree.

In life, reality is designed to be the string that keeps a limit on wonderful flight. Without it, we would be wanderers floating without direction or, worse, tangled in a mess. We are sort of alive like the dancing kite, yet we’re not fully there because we’re tethered by the string of reality. This causes sadness and a feeling of helplessness. Therefore, we ignore the string—the reality—because we prefer to believe we have the freedom to fly without limits.

There are a number of executives and non-executives alike who ignore reality daily. They foolishly place too much confidence in their knowledge. Whether they hold tight to their advanced degrees or some other validation of their brainpower, they may be traveling on a disastrous road. The newspapers are filled with high-profile stories about smart people doing dumb things.

Where do we turn when we can’t ignore reality? Do we proudly dig in our heels, as if to say, “I know what I’m doing?” Do we become fatalistic and convince ourselves that it really doesn’t matter?

These responses occur in phases—life phases. In youth, pride can get a grip. There is a certain arrogance that screams invincibility. In many cases, this type of attitude closes off the opportunity to learn. In our youth, we can fall into the trap of thinking that learning is only useful when it serves our own purposes. Humility is the fertile ground needed for learning to occur.

First, all of us should be investing our money for the future-however long that may be.  We should not be living for a future we have no guarantee of seeing.

Bullet #8 in my post How To Know If You’re a Corporate Slave, speaks to those working/living for retirement.  It’s a sad place to be when all of your energy and focus is on something unknown like retirement.  But we do it and we’re encouraged to as well.  We’re encouraged by Wall Street and the organizations we work for.  Why is that?  With Wall Street it makes total sense; follow the money and you will find Nirvana.  The organization’s motivations can be a little murky.  It can be honest care for you (rare) or it can be a way of putting golden shackles on your wrists and ankles.

I had a conversation with a former colleague who remarked that he was happy that he had a job and only needed 12 more years before retirement.  That statement was not horrific, but the fact that he didn’t say anything else about his work was.  He’s all but given up and given in.  I don’t think his organization minds…

Regardless of where you stand on the idea of retirement, consider these 5 myths:

1. Other people’s experience will let me know how things will go for me. 
2. I can do what I’ve always wanted to do when I retire. 
3. Employers offer retirement benefits to retain talent. 
4. I shouldn’t let go of those vested benefits that I’ve worked so hard to earn. 
5. I need to stay with this company to provide a secure future for myself when I’m too old to work.

 

In my post, How To Know If Your a Corporate Slave, last week I noted that if you would lie rather than take a stand on an issue, you were either on your way or already a corporate slave.  Before you shake your head at the transgression of untruth, don’t forget that we all can fall prey to telling lies.  For example; "I didn’t tell my boss that I disagreed with our company’s approach to succession planning, because he said we’re world class in succession planning.  I know I agreed with him when I was asked, but now is not the right time to take a stand.  We have a one-on-one next week anyway…I’ll tell him then."  Sound familiar?

The above example is to illustrate how we voluntarily kill our freedoms and kill our integrity when we choose to lie and not take a stand-no matter how unpopular.  It’s not lost on me that some consultants/coaches/experts might say that the example really wasn’t lying it was using keen strategy to maneuver inside of a matrix organization.  BULLOGNE!

Could it be that we’ve even distorted what a lie is?  Have we compartmentalized things to the degree that we’ll pick and choose when a lie is needed?  Sadly, many have and the numbers are growing.  Some very well intentioned (albeit enslaved) people don’t realize what their trading in this corporate game.  We all trade something.  The question is; can you live with what you’ve traded away?  Do you even know what you’ve traded?

The answer is; you’ve trade your freedom…the following are the things/opportunities you’ve traded away:

1. Freedom to be authentic (who you really are).
2. Freedom to tell the truth. 
3. Freedom to care about your work (the discipline you were wired to do).
4. Freedom to lead others.
5. Freedom to help your organization-really help.
6. Freedom to be an advocate for your customers.
7. Freedom to leave (your organization) something that isn’t working.
8. Freedom to pursue what you’ve been ignoring all your life.
9. Freedom to find out that life is most important-not career.
10. Freedom to wake up.

There are specific strategies (not lies) that I teach clients on "turning around."  Here are three:

1. Stop what you’re doing and make a decision about what you want the rest of your story (life, legacy, career, family, God) to look like.
2. Don’t kid yourself, depending on how enslaved you are, this will not be an easy road.
3. Get some people (people who believe in truth) to help you on the long journey ahead.